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Perpetrators vs Victims

I came across a post at WeChat last night, the post was about going back with your ex. One thing came into my mind instantly "Going back your ex?" or do you mean begging your ex to come back to your side once again? Sorry , I can't bring myself to go back to my ex. Although I do miss my ex and cried myself to sleep every night but I am not going back to my ex. ( Let's put it this way, I've just broken up with my ex about a month ago. Anyway this is not even true at all~ ) WHY? This isn't about who dumped who, since one party had already made that decision I'll respect my ex's decision. I know the other party definitely had went through countless of thoughts before he/she had made that choice. To be honest , breaking up isn't about one person's issue. The real truth about breaking up is affecting both persons at two different timing.

The perpetrators (This refers to the ones who initially the break up )would normally feel a sign of relieve at first , finally he/she is free from the mess he/she got into. After a while perhaps he/she would think back all the ups and downs with their ex. The moments they shared were REAL , at lest nobody could denied that. They would probably think of going back to their ex , if their ex are still single and unable to move on. There would be another type which would want go back to their ex even though their ex had already moved on and started a new relationships. It feels like someone had snatched their toys away from them. Both types of perpetrator would normally faced the post effect of break up after they have seen their ex had either moved on or started a relationships with another person.

The Victims (The ones who get dumped) would normally could not stop crying for a few day , few weeks or even few months. Maybe they just couldn't believed they got dumped by a perpetrator or not willing to believe why their partner had dumped them. They would be the ones facing the break up effect immediately. Most of the victims would asked why their partners had initiated break up , did they do anything wrong or is there something they can do to reverse the break up? Unfortunately , it a very slim chance of being together once again. If things are able to make up , please cherish your other half and put in an extra effort to keep up the relationships (Speaking from a girl's view) For those relationships were not able to make up. Nothing much to say , moved on completely and learn to love yourself more than you should love the other party. Don't get into a relationship because you feel lonely. After a few weeks of crying , it's time to start loving yourself more than you should. Pick yourself up and move on.

Overall : I am the perpetrators and the victims in my past relationships , I did some major mistakes in my life. As a perpetrator , I should be more understanding/ forgiving toward my ex. It's not something major , maybe that was my ex's way to show my ex loved me. I was very immature....
Speaking from a victim's point of view , I'm glad I am over my ex. Some things were not meant to be , no point forcing it.

❤ "Perpetrators vs Victims" was Posted On: Thursday, 16 October 2014 @00:07 | 0 lovely comments ✿

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