relationship slavery
There's something on my mind which makes me unable to sleep currently , I must speak my mind at this moment. This is something very close to me because I went through it before or even more than a few times. I tend to give way too many chances for my ex , and that could lead to a abusive relationship between us. I am not going to push the blame to my exs. Let's put it in a nicer way , when we got together , I was too young , ignorant and of course immature. To be honest , I did not know how to fall in love or how to love my ex boyfriends. All my relationships were quite rowdy , it were never smooth for the both of us. We had more downs compared to ups , because we lacked of understanding. Break up had appeared countless of times in my mind whenever I had a tiff with my ex boyfriends. I did not mean I want to break up with that person whenever I said [Let's break up], because at that point of time I think we do love each other deeply. My exs got tired of my [Let's break up] phrase and I grew tired of he/she repeating the same mistakes over and over again. Some of my relationships had ended in a peaceful way while others not so peaceful. I used to forgive this person(let's named it A) , because I felt that A was my true love. Whatever A did , I would forgive because I tend to love A more than myself. It was a mistake to forgive A again and again , because I did not want to lose A at that moment. The cycle of relationship slavery began and repeated itself every time whenever we quarrelled over very stupid issues(Now when I think of it , it's very silly.) Till that point of time when I finally could not take it , I desired to end this vicious cycle of relationship slavery. So I let A know my decision , A was begging me to stay. It's too late A , you did not treasure me when you are with me. Of course I cried myself to bed almost every night, trying to forget every single details when I was together with A. The process was painful but it was worth it. You can love a person very much but please don't throw away your pride for that person. He/she might not worth it(just saying). Moreover please learn to love yourself more than your partner , you need it.